Keywords

career goals, financial freedom, seasonal living, internal identities, ambitious woman, spiritual identity, personal appearance, familial relation, romantic relation, doer of things, chat bot, AI coaching, identity development, life vision, action exercises

Speakers

Leigh (71%), AC (27%), Speaker 1 (1%)
Leigh Ann Orsi
0:00
Part, the questions, the process that I'm going to take you through, I've done with a lot of people. I haven't actually done this question year with anyone, because the people that I haven't worked with, I just have found out along the way. But I thought, why don't we start with like, I know that you mentioned just a little chat about you and where you're at in your life, and what would you know, what you want to what you're looking for. Okay,
AC
0:21
yeah,
AC
0:23
your general, um, okay, I'm like, trying thinking pillars,
Leigh Ann Orsi
0:29
yeah, tell me, like, you told me that you're, you worked in tech currently, you, you're consulting, but you kind of don't have a job right now. And,
AC
0:39
yeah, okay. Like, I'd say, like, right now I'm really focused on, like, I want, I've always kind of been a contractor in tech. I want one final big job to buy the other two properties. And so, like, I have this kind of goal, like, where I want to make 300,000 right? And so I'm not going to take anything until I make that annually, and so that I can go and buy these two properties. And so, like, that's just a huge focus. And I only want to work at Airbnb. And so it's, like, I put a few kind of levers in there, and like, my whole kind of career has led to this. And that's like my capstone, and so, and the reason why I want to work there is because, like, my long term goal is financial freedom. And like, I don't need a lot. I actually, like, I have this bad business bitch side, and then I have this hippie side, and they need to kind of play alongside each other. So like, I just see, like, a couple properties to make me enough money, and then I don't have to check in on tech anymore. Yeah. So, like, that's kind of, like the financial and the career piece. And like, I think once I get to that stage in life, I can transition into, like, giving my time to help people. I'm not sure what that looks like right now, but I have a few ideas so, but that's, that's I really want to be able to transition to that, like, in my mid 40s, so six, yeah, and so then I also want to find a partner. I had had the same partner for like, three and a half, four years off and on, actually bought the house so we could be there and start our lives together. That did not happen. And so now I'm kind of like, in this devotion to self for till the end of the year, and because I also want to have kids. But like, I never thought I'd wake up at 36 and be like, Oh, I'm single and there's no babies, but that is where I'm at. And so right now I'm just like, trying to I'm working on myself, and I've never actually been alone before. So I'm like, I really want to take the rest this year to spend time alone, so that when I'm finally ready to meet the partner, like, I attract the right one. So, like, those are kind of the two things circling. I don't know if I gave you, yeah, yeah. So
Leigh Ann Orsi
2:33
yeah, we obviously have seeking energy. You're open to, like, what the world is bringing you.
AC
2:39
Yes, very open. And, like, I know this year has been, like, just so pivotal for me and like, so in like, the way that I designed my life, I this is also like, a thing that's really important to me is, like, I like to have like, a few home bases. It's like, I live in Austin, let's say, three or four months a year. Then I have, like, my Europe home base on the beach, and then I have my mountain place. And, like, that's how I call it seasonal living. And so, like, I'm really striving to get to that. So it's like, it's the kind of, like, the purpose behind it all, Yeah,
Leigh Ann Orsi
3:07
amazing. And are all the properties you own here in Austin, or do you own stuff around?
AC
3:12
I don't own anything around yet, so it's like, yeah, but as soon as, like, the job deal is signed and like, it hits the bank and I'm gonna go and buy the next one. So, yeah, cool,
Leigh Ann Orsi
3:23
perfect. I think that that is really helpful, yeah, and yeah, it's one of the things I was talking about with the with the coaches, like we also need to do, like an onboarding questionnaire, so that the AI me as a coach has some general guidelines in order to interact. So that's awesome. So thank you for sharing, and thank you for being open enough to like, you know, be open to this process and share with me. Yeah, well, now I'm going to take you through a really cool exercise that is going to help you develop. We call it. It's actually like a dream team of like, internal selves. Yeah. So have you ever heard of internal family systems? No, ifs so it's this theory that we all have like a million voices in our head, right? And that the people that the people that are crazy on the street that are like talking to themselves or have multiple personality disorder, they're just living that on the outside, but we actually all have it going on on the inside, right? Yeah, um, in the this guy's theory is that through different traumatic experiences in life, we fracture into multiple parts of ourselves interesting, and there's certain parts that are sequestered and hidden because they're too painful to face. And then there's all these protectors that are protecting them anyways. There's this whole, like myriad of fractured selves inside, and this is like a trauma theory, right? And so we are taking that same theory and making it kind of the theory of success. You have multiple people inside of you, best in the best of your life. You are expressing them all, yeah,
5:18
interesting. This
Leigh Ann Orsi
5:20
is like the thing, like, we want to, you know, you want to be an amazing businesswoman. And you, you know you want, you know, whatever, there's like, a million different things that you want your life. You want to be a businesswoman. You want a realtor. You want to get this other contract. You want to be a wife, you want to be a doctor. You want to be a mother. You know, probably have some other ambitions for you know, traveling. You want to be a seasonal liver. You want to be an early retiree. Yeah,
AC
5:44
all the things
Leigh Ann Orsi
5:46
different parts of you are different individual selves within you that want to be expressed. And so when most people look at their lives, they organize it in these exterior buckets, like finance, career, family, whatever. And the truth is is like we're supposed to care about all that stuff, but maybe we care about like half and not the other half or whatever. And so my methodology turns it all into an identity. What is your relationship to these important buckets in your life, and who do you want to be? How do you want to show up?
AC
6:25
Interesting. Okay, so we're going
Leigh Ann Orsi
6:28
to start by developing this sort of constellation of your internal identities that when you we're going to get to the end and get this list, and you're going to be like, if I can be all those people.
AC
6:41
Yeah. Okay, okay, you know, okay.
Leigh Ann Orsi
6:44
So the very first question is, like, what are the things that you already know you are, and you can just take a piece of pepper and write it down, like, okay, you know, what are the identities that you already are? Like, this is me.
AC
6:59
Okay. Do you want to say it a lot? I know, yeah,
Leigh Ann Orsi
7:00
say it. Write them down. I mean, I know, like, I'll just give you some hints of the things that you told me it's like, you're a real estate investor, or, you know, traveler, seasonal, whatever, like, so like, all these things that you know you are, things that you know you're, yeah, already expressing,
AC
7:17
well, I would go more like, I would say, like, I'm a cheerleader. Like, that's Kylie. Write it down in people's lives, yeah, a really empathetic friend, I don't know, like, I'm more like on that that you
Leigh Ann Orsi
7:32
write it all right? Now this is like a big mind dump. So whatever, we're going to do everything, and then we can, like,
AC
7:43
okay, so I'll just, I'm like, Okay, I'm extremely ambitious. I live life by my own rules.
Leigh Ann Orsi
7:51
Yeah. So one thing we're going to focus on, we're going to focus on ambitious. It's not a noun, it's a descriptor. So, but you're an ambitious woman. You're AC we want these to be ownership words. I'm an ambitious seeker. I'm an ambitious like leader. I'm an ambitious whatever ambitious is a qualifier. So you want to make sure that it's a noun. And if you can't figure out a noun, just like write down what it is fine, but just know that our goal is an ownership word, something that's me, Okay,
AC
8:26
give me an give me an example, like, help me
Leigh Ann Orsi
8:28
so like a cheerleader is a noun, yeah, a an empathetic friend, okay? A because, because I'm a friend, I'm a cheerleader, I'm a I'm ambitious, is describing yourself. It's not saying I am a ambitious risk taker or I'm an ambitious Do you know what I'm saying? Like, what, what it what is it about what ownership word can you attach to that that makes it, that brings it inside of you? It's not something that's outside of you.
AC
8:59
Okay? So, like, I live my life on my own terms. We can write
Leigh Ann Orsi
9:07
it down as an idea, but the goal would be to transition it to an ownership word eventually. Okay. I mean, some people would call that a rebel.
AC
9:16
A rebel, okay, yeah, okay, interesting.
Leigh Ann Orsi
9:18
Do you know what I mean? Yeah, I feel like
AC
9:21
that's it. That's enough. That kind of, I mean, those are the identities that I live by. I mean, there's, I see the negative ones. I can write those down, like,
Leigh Ann Orsi
9:29
that's a different exercise, easier to do than the good one. Yeah,
AC
9:37
okay, um, uh.
Leigh Ann Orsi
9:47
So I'm gonna say like, you're gonna write all these ones down that come naturally. Then the next layer is, what are the things that you want to be that you're not
AC
9:59
okay? So
Leigh Ann Orsi
10:00
what are the things that you're like, you know, I want to be a millionaire. I want to be a useful retiree, or I want to be a you know, what is it you said you want to be able to to give back instead of have to work for your money, right? So, like, what are those sort of ambitious identities that maybe you don't think that you are right now, but you want to be okay. Um,
AC
10:27
money alive, incidentally,
Leigh Ann Orsi
10:33
right, there you go. Perfect, yeah, wife and a mother. Um,
AC
10:44
um, okay, take care of my children. And then
AC
10:55
an incredible ambassador that to use the proceeds to help others, yeah, and then I have time freedom to spend with the one. Okay, done. Okay,
Leigh Ann Orsi
11:23
so now, so this is kind of just a starting place, and you can kind of take this and put it to the side and use it as a reference, okay?
AC
11:31
Because now
Leigh Ann Orsi
11:32
I'm going to take you through categories that we have found that people can develop identities in to have a really like, robust and holistic, like, whole, yeah,
11:47
yeah, anything
Leigh Ann Orsi
11:48
that you have, here's the here's the cool thing about it. Anything that you don't have an identity in, or you have major resistance to any of these categories, that's where all the juicy work, an opportunity for growth is
AC
12:04
interesting, okay,
Leigh Ann Orsi
12:05
yeah, like anyone that's like or or no, like, yeah, just know that that is where you have the biggest opportunity for growth. You're not required to come up with an identity in each of these categories, but know that if you choose to skip one, you will end up coming you will realize later, yeah,
AC
12:28
that you don't
Leigh Ann Orsi
12:29
have one. And maybe, maybe it would be helpful,
12:32
right? Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. Yeah, this is like a
Leigh Ann Orsi
12:35
20 step process. So no, this is just step one, and you don't have to complete it all, okay? And your the ones that we already came up with, those are a guide. You can choose one to fit in any of these categories. But sometimes just the thought of the category is really like, revolutionary, yeah, just thinking about having an identity in one of these categories sometimes, just like, changes people's whole lives, which is really fun.
AC
13:04
It's amazing. I this is like it. I love this because I feel like, especially in that, when I live in the US, it's like we identify ourselves just by these boxes. It's like we are these, like, few things. And I just like that. This breaks that apart, because I've never agreed with it. I don't know if I'm making sense, but yeah,
Leigh Ann Orsi
13:22
yeah. Well, look, it's like, oh, what? What do you do? Oh, nice to meet you. What do you do? Yeah, what do you what's your work identity? That's the only thing that defines you, right? Or what's your relationship identity? That's
Speaker 1
13:34
kind of that. Or, if you're a mom, so it's like, these three identities, and then, like, they kind of size you up by how much money you have, and then you fit inside this box of what, you know, they put this identity on you. And so I feel like this breaks that all open. It's like people are it's
Leigh Ann Orsi
13:47
also the reason that I get the fuck out of the country. Yes,
13:50
as much as I didn't live here, I didn't live here,
Leigh Ann Orsi
13:53
like, oh, this stuff doesn't matter. It
13:55
doesn't matter. Yeah,
Leigh Ann Orsi
13:56
that we care about here is not what matters in life, 100%
AC
14:00
Yeah, I left for 10 years, and so I came back just to go get the husband, because, like, oh, it'd be easier to get freaking American, yeah. But I'm like, I need to leave. Continue. This is great. Okay, cool.
Leigh Ann Orsi
14:13
So know that you can choose any of the ones that you've put here, or you might be inspired to create another right as we move through these. Okay, so, and also know the categories are not important ongoing. So not like you're looking at the categories. The categories are actually go away as soon as you have the answer. And the answer is your full list, right when we finish. Okay, so the first one is like, your passions and talents. These are the things that kind of make you uniquely you. And there's multiple of these. Some people have two, some people have four. Some people, you know, but these are the things that are like, Are you a bookworm? Are you a social butterfly? Are you like, what are you, you know, are you like, a like, like, a leader, or are you kind of like, you know, someone who loves to be a supporter, like, these are the things that are your specific personality and style.
AC
15:17
Okay, okay,
Leigh Ann Orsi
15:25
from your list or what are your identities that really like? Are your unique? Because I'll tell you, these ones are the ones that are unique to like you, and then the rest of them are pretty static. Of your relationships to important things in the world. Yeah.
AC
15:40
Okay. So, I mean, okay, so I'm just going to repeat what I wrote down, and then I'm going to it was like cheerleader, empathetic friend, ambitious woman, rebel, reckless and strategic,
Leigh Ann Orsi
15:54
yeah? So I would say that of those cheerleader and
AC
16:00
a lot of it, yeah, truly, what was
Leigh Ann Orsi
16:02
the second one? Like
AC
16:04
an empathetic friend, like, I really, like a big piece of me is like fostering community. I'm very
Leigh Ann Orsi
16:09
I love it, okay? So keep reading more. And
AC
16:14
then, ambitious woman, risk taker, risk taker.
Leigh Ann Orsi
16:20
Okay, I live life on
AC
16:22
my own terms. Which was I'm a rebel, and then,
Leigh Ann Orsi
16:24
yeah, is rebel and risk taker? Are they kind of the same? I think they're
AC
16:28
the same. Yeah, cool. Who's viewing it like? So I think yeah,
Leigh Ann Orsi
16:32
and choose which one feels more generative and more exciting. Like one of the things about these names, and you're going to kind of kick them around after the session and come up with the one that's like, fuck yeah,
AC
16:45
okay, I love it. And then, like, a big piece of, like, my life, I was like, business. It's like, I love I could sit and talk about how we're going to sell a million pieces of sage, you know, right? That's
Leigh Ann Orsi
16:54
the strategist, the
AC
16:56
strategist, okay,
Leigh Ann Orsi
16:58
yeah, so strategist,
AC
16:59
risk taker and I think cheerleader, I feel like those are the three, right? Perfect.
Leigh Ann Orsi
17:04
So, so and also the strategist. Let's leave it. I'm going to leave it in the in the picking pile, because it might be a good one for some of these other other ones. But let's just start with like risk taker and cheerleader. And look, it's, it's all a brainstorming exercise. Nothing is complete ever
AC
17:25
I'll take it. I've been using that for like, years from some other therapists. I have never found a better one. I'm a cheerleader for the ones I love. But
Leigh Ann Orsi
17:33
if it resonates with you and it makes you excited, then okay, then that's new, right? Okay,
AC
17:39
yeah. Look, the
Leigh Ann Orsi
17:40
thing is, there's no right or wrong answers to this. This is what fires you up. Okay,
AC
17:46
okay, got it right, and
Leigh Ann Orsi
17:48
what resonates with you? What's that little piece that like locks into your heart and like makes synergy in your life, makes you excited about going out to do things, and
AC
18:00
I can only pick one, no,
Leigh Ann Orsi
18:02
no, you can pick as many as you want. So because this is passions and talents, this is a few. So I'm actually going to leave it here, because you don't have to fully decide. Once we get the full list, we'll make sure that we have everything. Okay, got
AC
18:16
it clear.
Leigh Ann Orsi
18:17
Okay, so, so I think, I think we're pretty good with that one, yeah, yeah. The next one, because we are American, you know, we have to go into the important American things, which is your maker of money? Yes,
AC
18:28
who
Leigh Ann Orsi
18:29
is your maker of money? And this is a really amazing question for you, right? Is, is your maker of money? The strategist? Is your maker of money the risk taker? See, but it's a, it's a question that you get to decide,
AC
18:48
Ah, okay. It's like, which part of my identity is the maker? Oh, I'm getting it. I'm getting it. Okay. I love that. Who do
Leigh Ann Orsi
18:58
you deploy in the world to make money like you choose,
AC
19:02
yeah, get a strategist 100% maybe it was the risk taker before, but now that's just her passion. You get
Leigh Ann Orsi
19:12
to pick and you get,
AC
19:13
okay, you get to deploy,
Leigh Ann Orsi
19:14
like, look, my strategist is in charge of making the money. The risk taker doesn't have to make money, right? The risk taker is there to console. We can talk together, the strategist and the risk taker. They can balance each other out, right?
19:27
Yeah? Like, you don't
Leigh Ann Orsi
19:28
have to recklessly throw yourself into whatever, right? Yeah, fantastic.
AC
19:32
I'm getting it. Okay, cool.
Leigh Ann Orsi
19:35
And so you choose who's making the money, and we'll get into more as how that works as time goes on, but right now you're just peeking your chess pieces for life.
AC
19:43
Okay, like it?
Leigh Ann Orsi
19:47
Okay, cool. So the next one, this is a really beautiful one, I feel like for you, you already have this part, just from the little I know of you, but the next kind of blows people's world open. Sometimes just thinking about this can be really paradigm shifty, but we all have a maker of money, and that's person out there making money, but we all also need a keeper of money.
AC
20:10
Who is
Leigh Ann Orsi
20:12
your keeper of money?
AC
20:19
It used to be the worst kick. Hello. Well,
Leigh Ann Orsi
20:22
feet, that's why it's a good question. I
AC
20:28
think it's the ambitious woman. I feel like she
Leigh Ann Orsi
20:31
great. I love it, yeah, yeah. And also, feel free. Look, we're going to put the ambitious woman now, and if, maybe, if they'd be like, No, actually, she's a wealthy woman. Actually, she's a free
20:42
love that, yeah, you know
Leigh Ann Orsi
20:44
what I'm saying? Like, you can pick who is my money real estate investor, or maybe it's the wealthy woman who is also a real estate investor. Yeah, you know. So, like, you get to choose who's keeping your money.
20:59
Okay? And it doesn't have
Leigh Ann Orsi
21:01
to be the risk taker. Yeah,
AC
21:03
if you don't
Leigh Ann Orsi
21:04
want it
AC
21:05
to be, please don't touch it. Please stay the fuck away, right, right, right, right, right. I'm getting too
Leigh Ann Orsi
21:12
all over your bullshit, right, right. Amazing. Okay,
AC
21:16
that's fantastic. Wow. Okay, cool.
Leigh Ann Orsi
21:19
Moving on. So this is a really beautiful one. This is another one that really blows people's world open, just considering that they have the opportunity to choose an identity in this category. And this is your personal appearance. How do you want to show up in the world. How do you present yourself? What do you want the world to take in when you walk into a room,
AC
21:52
I did not write that down. I don't have I'm gonna need help. It's like, I want to be someone who's like, just graceful and calm and like, has it together, and I often show up in chaos. Sometimes, you know, like, that's great. So, yeah, this is
Leigh Ann Orsi
22:06
one when you don't have one, and you get to create, when you get to choose. And it can be one that, like, I'm not now, but I want to be like, a peaceful presence, or I want to be a like, together lady. Or, you know, you get to pick the words, okay, but like, how do you want to show up? And then in the morning, when you're leaving in the chaotic mask, you're like, Whoa,
AC
22:29
yeah, hey, no, you
Leigh Ann Orsi
22:31
know, and, and we'll get into because we have a shadow exercise that's part of this, that's really transformative, but probably often showing up in your shadow, yeah,
Leigh Ann Orsi
22:41
as opposed to your highest self,
AC
22:45
yeah, okay, interesting. Okay, next, I'm ready, yeah,
Leigh Ann Orsi
22:54
and by choosing, just by choosing, you'll begin to shift.
AC
22:58
Yeah, that's so exciting. Yeah,
Leigh Ann Orsi
23:02
wow, yeah. And I'll tell you, mine is elegant icon.
AC
23:05
Oh, I don't want to steal that, but I want to make note of that you can
Leigh Ann Orsi
23:09
steal, by the way, everyone, there's great ones that have been stolen around a bunch of times. Elegant icon. You may you may use it. I use it as an example for everyone, but mine's elegant icon. And you know when I'm in my shadow, it's like disorganized disaster.
AC
23:22
Yes, yeah, right,
Leigh Ann Orsi
23:24
that's the mess. But the elegant icon, like, not only am I put together when I leave, but also my space is clean, yeah,
AC
23:32
uh huh. 100% you know.
Leigh Ann Orsi
23:33
And so my elegant icon is the one who organizes my closet and gets ready. Yeah,
AC
23:40
yeah, okay, I love that. Hmm, that's such an important one I want to work on. But the
Leigh Ann Orsi
23:49
way that you show up in the world, like, really matters, yeah? It
AC
23:52
does 100% Yeah.
Leigh Ann Orsi
23:54
It matters in the way the world responds to you. It also matters in, like, your own energy that you bring to every moment, right? And so, like I said, when you have a resistance or a block or a vacancy in any of these, you realize, like, Oh, this is a chance for me to really up level, up level.
AC
24:16
Hmm, yeah, yeah. That's interesting. I feel like some of these I have a better control over than the others.
Leigh Ann Orsi
24:26
Oh, everyone, yeah. Everyone, yeah. Look, part of it is identifying, like, Oh, this is the bucket I can work in. And like, you know, I one of my really good friends that did this thing. Like, she was like, super mad at this question. She had like, a couple of like, outbursts about it, whatever. And then by the end of our time together, she was like, well, if I'm being honest, my personal appearance identity is lazy, slow.
AC
24:52
That's great.
Leigh Ann Orsi
24:54
That's not what I want. And like, I'd rather be a natural beauty, yeah?
AC
25:00
Okay. I love that. Yeah. I will be honest with you. Like, some of my girlfriends this weekend were like, could you just, like, brush your hair a little or, like, put on some lipstick. I've never heard that in my life. It was like, oh, and they're like, can you borrow our clothes you're not wearing? So it's like, I don't even, yeah, it's very easy to identify, yeah, that this
Leigh Ann Orsi
25:21
is somewhere where you could show more love to yourself and then therefore get more from the world, right? Yeah?
AC
25:27
Okay, lazy salon, yeah, 100% Yeah.
Leigh Ann Orsi
25:33
Okay, like I said, mine when I'm not, when it's not going well, I'm the damsel in distress, or I'm the disorganized disaster, yeah? But, like, the best part of me is the elegant icon when I can show up in the elegant icon. Mm hmm,
AC
25:44
yeah, okay, I love that is better
Leigh Ann Orsi
25:47
everyone. Mm hmm,
AC
25:49
yeah, amazing.
Leigh Ann Orsi
25:50
Okay, this next one is really cool. It is, it is a, it. You know, this one can be tricky for people. Either they're totally in or they're totally out, but it's the same thing you can kind of have, not having it is a is a hole in your life. And I'll be someone, I'll tell you I'm someone who doesn't or didn't, and that the more work I do myself, the more I realize, and it's spiritual. Oh,
AC
26:21
spiritual, your spiritual
Leigh Ann Orsi
26:22
identity, right? So this can be everything from like the Austin Woo to, you know, religious to whatever, but it is this sense of peace, surrender, Grace, which most of us Americans at this point don't
AC
26:41
have, yeah, yeah. I'm not sure the word for it. I'm going to give a little bit of context. I have, like, I've been going to church for like, two years, but it was kind of like, at first, it was free therapy for me and my ex, and then built a community around it. So it's more like a community piece, and they give really good sermons that are like TED Talks. But then there's this other side of me that's like, super Woo and into yoga. I'm like, I go to, you know, I love singing the ohms and all the blah blah blahs, and I have the sage right here burning. So like, I think, I'm like, I'm on a journey to where I'm becoming happy with nothing, but I'm not there. I think that
Leigh Ann Orsi
27:20
find this. And it's like, you know, spiritual seeker, yes,
AC
27:24
like, I'm sure so I like a curiosity. I'm spiritually curious. The other Yeah, okay, yeah. Or
Leigh Ann Orsi
27:38
make spiritual Explorer, or
AC
27:40
or, Yeah,
Leigh Ann Orsi
27:47
or like, even, like you said, was community. So like, a spiritual connect, connector, or like, you're connecting through people with spirituality, and you're connecting yourself. You kick it around, yeah,
AC
27:56
around the word.
Leigh Ann Orsi
27:57
And here's actually one of the really fun things, is that AI is actually really good at this part, I
AC
28:03
bet. Yeah, helping
Leigh Ann Orsi
28:04
you come up with, look, I'm I want to come up with a name for my spiritual identity. I even am building a chat bot. Like I said, I'm building it. It's still rogue sometimes, but it could probably help you, once you do what I kind of want to do is, like, get into people do the first session, and then, like, set them free on the chat bot and let the chat bot finish it. Yeah, yeah, but, um, but just know that, like coming up with the creative word yeah is the end result, but it's about the journey inside yourself of like asking yourself these questions and raising them yeah in your life, yeah,
AC
28:39
okay. And it's like thinking about where I am today, and then what the highest self version would be. And kind of, it's
Leigh Ann Orsi
28:46
kind of, actually, it's not about where you are today. It's actually about where you want to be. And starting with a great example is fitness, right? You say I want to get in shape, so I need to go to the gym. Okay?
AC
29:04
That's
Leigh Ann Orsi
29:05
energy, right? That's a certain kind of energy. Or if you say, like, I am an athlete, therefore I wake up in the morning, I go to the gym. Totally different, yes, it's
AC
29:18
totally different statement and energy, the energy. So when
Leigh Ann Orsi
29:22
you say, like, I am a spiritual seeker, so I wake up in the morning, I do my yoga, I seek the internal peace, or like a peace seeker, or like, you know, yeah, and actually, whatever it may be, when you affirm that I am what I eventually want to be now, yeah,
AC
29:42
I
Leigh Ann Orsi
29:43
can start being it now,
AC
29:44
yeah, that's fine, got it, yeah,
Leigh Ann Orsi
29:47
and then you have a much better chance of, like, having the results you want if you truly are, you know, being the athlete. Now, instead of having to, like, put yourself through some paces and earn something, whatever I am, start with the so the reason we do this program this way, it's identity first leads to action leads to results.
AC
30:20
Okay, written down. Very interesting. Yeah.
Leigh Ann Orsi
30:25
Okay, so the next one is, kind of, is your physical expression health? So this manifests in people in a lot of different ways. I mean, you've got the like, Jock dudes who are like, Jim crows, right? You've got the girls who are like, look, I will never set foot in a gym, but I'm all about the ingredients and the supplements and the this and that, and so it's kind of like, how do you care for your temp? What's your brand of caring for your vessel that you live inside? And that's different than the personal appearance, which is like, how do I show up in the world is like, do I care for my physical self? And
AC
31:06
I'm
Leigh Ann Orsi
31:07
really big into this one, especially before I was poisoned with mold. And so I have two, because I have, like, a magical healer, which is kind of, kind of like my chef, and my like, you know, herbalist, and like all of these things. And then I also have my athlete, because I'm super. I was a professional athlete for 15 years. So I, in fact, since this is such a big part of my life, I have two and so one kind of goes under my passions, which is like my magical healer, is kind of like my passion one, but it spills over into my physical appearance is my, it's actually my acrobat. So that's mine.
AC
31:44
Oh, that's nice too. Yeah, I'm not sure the word. I'm just gonna write the blank,
Leigh Ann Orsi
31:54
okay, write some qualifying reminder language,
AC
31:57
yeah, okay. I have like trouble, because with this I I lift weights four times, like I work, you're gonna hear you probably heard a squat. I prioritize my health probably above anything else, because I feel like that sets you up for the rest of your life. But my physical, my appearance, does not show it, because there's some other stresses and things. Oh yeah. We can't way of saying it, oh,
Leigh Ann Orsi
32:23
but, but I think that,
AC
32:26
yeah, we
Leigh Ann Orsi
32:27
kind of nailed that, right? Because, like, if you're like, Oh, my physical you know, my caring for my body is great, but the issue is my physical appearance. Yeah, I don't have an identity there, and I kind of struggle to decide what I want it to be. You might be able to connect it
AC
32:43
off, yeah, yeah, okay,
AC
32:53
okay, I think on that. Okay. Is there any more? Yeah, okay,
Leigh Ann Orsi
33:04
okay, familial relation. So this is how you show up in your family of origin, or in your community, or in your chosen you know, your
AC
33:17
Yeah, family
Leigh Ann Orsi
33:18
one day, and I'll tell you that this is another one people. Some people have really strong ties. Choose, um, choose to have more than one here, which is totally welcome, depending or one like, I'll tell you, mine is empowered mother. It's how I want to show up for my future children, and also how I want to show up in my family of origin, because we didn't have that. That's why,
33:45
yeah, I
Leigh Ann Orsi
33:46
can show up and be the Empowered mother in my family.
AC
33:49
Interesting. I love that
Leigh Ann Orsi
33:52
so, so you can choose again, how it is. This is also like your you know, and I have other ones who, like, chose Big Brother because it's like, that's how I show up, for my friends, my family, for my brother. You know, I have someone else who's like, chose sister because that's how she wants to show up, even with her mom. Yeah, do you know what I'm saying? So you can choose one that captures all of it if you need more, more, but like, also your empathetic friend,
34:21
yeah, familial
Leigh Ann Orsi
34:22
relation, you know, it kind of, it's your choice, yeah,
AC
34:27
yeah, I wrote down golden retriever.
Leigh Ann Orsi
34:31
You wrote down, what? Golden Retriever? Golden Retriever, okay, yeah,
AC
34:35
it's like, it's a it's someone who's loyal, like, and just will always, you know, always be there, we need some cuddles. I don't know, yeah, okay, but I want I feel like that doesn't give me a much power, you know.
Leigh Ann Orsi
34:49
So I was just gonna say, and I was like, do I say
AC
34:52
this? Though I hear
Leigh Ann Orsi
34:53
a couple of shadows creeping into your identity, I would say that Golden Retriever is probably a little bit more of a shadow response. And same with even the risk taker. And I think that you can find, yeah, the Empowered side of it. Okay, do you know what I mean? That's just my that's my initial instinct. I could be wrong.
AC
35:16
No, I love that, yeah, you know.
Leigh Ann Orsi
35:19
But I think, I think it is, like, empathetic friend, or, you know, loyal friend, or present friend, or, like, loyal connector, or, you know, and I don't know what your story, your family of origin story, is, I'll tell you mine. I just skipped this one. I just didn't even have it. I was coaching people and all these things. I just didn't even have one. And Eric was saying to me, like, I really think you should consider putting mother in your thing. Because, like, he has two kids, and I mother them. And, you know, we have the desire to have our own children. And so he was like, really encouraging me. And I was like, no, no, no. Oh, really, okay, yeah, oh, I was resistant, right? And then I did all my shadow work, and I was like, oh, so basically, the anecdote to all these shadows is
AC
36:10
familiar, yeah, Wow,
Leigh Ann Orsi
36:13
interesting. So I put it in, yeah,
AC
36:15
interesting. And
Leigh Ann Orsi
36:16
so when you complete the full identity journey, because we aren't. We don't just have the light there is also the dark of ourselves. So we need to complete the whole scope, right? And when you complete the full scope, if you have something missing, you will see like, oh, well, I don't have spiritual and I all my shadows are seeking peace, and I don't have a spiritual identity, yeah,
AC
36:42
that makes sense. You probably need to go there. You know what I mean. So
Leigh Ann Orsi
36:47
it is a an algebraic equation. When you finish the whole thing, you realize, like, the balance is off here,
AC
36:54
yeah, I know. I know, yeah. And this, this one is, like, the hardest one to talk about, like I did familiar relation is like, the core of, like, what I what, like, kind of haunting me these days, you know, with life changes and things like that, yeah, and
Leigh Ann Orsi
37:08
so for you again, yeah, it can be mother,
AC
37:16
interesting, yeah,
Leigh Ann Orsi
37:17
your female or wife, or whatever you choose, is like, Ah, my choice for my familiar relation is going to be wife, and I'm going to start showing up as a wife. Now. What would a wife do? Okay, I would care for myself, care for my home, care for my family, care for my Do you know what I mean? Care for my future partner. Yeah, doing all these sort of things, and when you bring that energy into your life,
AC
37:46
yeah, it's gonna be
Leigh Ann Orsi
37:48
much easier to attract its opposite.
AC
37:50
You're right. Okay, you're right. Okay, yeah,
Leigh Ann Orsi
37:55
and totally scary, yeah, it's totally scary, yeah,
AC
38:01
but if I focus on that, does that, then ostracize my friendships, because now I'm focused on and prioritizing my relation as a wife, I guess a wife shows up as a good friend, yeah, yeah, okay. How does
Leigh Ann Orsi
38:16
it? Why? Why is it? Uh, well, if you believe that your relationship is going to to be a wife is going to destroy your friendships like that's probably something that's holding you back from creating that. Yeah, you know. And so how can you be a wife and honor yourself and your great friend? Obviously, you don't even have a husband to husband at this moment, so it's a great chance to practice being away without having to have it interrupt with your friends.
AC
38:44
Yes, you're right. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, you're right. Yeah, no, I'm actually, I'm wearing a fake wedding ring as a devotion to myself
Leigh Ann Orsi
38:56
be a great wife to yourself. Yourself.
AC
38:58
Yeah, that's so great. Okay, yeah, yeah, and your friends, okay, okay. But is
Leigh Ann Orsi
39:09
there something do you get the like mind shift of it?
AC
39:13
Yeah, it's a huge mindset, yeah, we're gonna have to sit with this for a few hours. You're
Leigh Ann Orsi
39:18
gonna sit with all of it. You're gonna sit with all Okay, the next one, which I think we just talked about, and they very well may be different, right, is romantic relation, yeah. So actually, your wife is probably your romantic relation, and then you can choose something for your familiar relation, which is also how you show up with your friends, because, because, for the the the the romantic relation, I'm sorry for the familial relation. It's also community. Familial community. You can have one of each. You can have one that embodies all of it. The idea is the energy with which you do something, and you can bring that energy to multiple quadrants of your life. Like I said, I chose empowered mother, and that's how I want to show up in my family of origin. It's also how I want to show up in my new family.
AC
40:07
In your new family. How do you show up? Okay, so, okay, that makes sense. How do you show up with your friends? The same as an empowered mother is that, you know, I
Leigh Ann Orsi
40:15
have a friend, one that is, that's part of my passion, you know, that kind of lands under passions and talents, and it's a connectors. I made up the word because it didn't exist,
40:26
and it is, you
Leigh Ann Orsi
40:28
know, I love to bring people together, create opportunities, experiences, you know, I don't actually have one that's for, like, my close friendships, yeah, but I would say that I probably do show up very motherly in those as well. Yeah,
AC
40:45
okay, cool. Thanks for sharing it. Just, it's good for me to have example. Okay, you know what's interesting?
Leigh Ann Orsi
40:48
I also think that I show up a lot as a magical healer in my friendships, because I'm constantly, like, you know, probably over advising everybody on everything, yeah? But
AC
40:59
everybody loves it. That's what they love about you.
Leigh Ann Orsi
41:01
Yeah, I think they like it, yeah, hopefully sometimes they probably want me to shut up and go away.
AC
41:06
Yeah, okay, take your potions. Okay. This is okay, perfect, cool.
Leigh Ann Orsi
41:12
And then the last one is, is actually not. I mean, well, some people it is. It is a quagmire. But this one's a little, I think, easier. So this one is called the doer of things, okay? And this one is like, we all have to go to the DMV and pay our taxes and do our dishes and clean our closet or whatever it is that we might need to do. And we all need a identity that empowers us to do those sorts of things with gratitude and grace and self like affirming. Because, if you like, I have to go to the DMV and you know, yeah,
AC
42:01
and
Leigh Ann Orsi
42:02
register my car, and it's like, you're a victim of the DMV and you're whatever, like you're a victim of the IRS, and like, when it becomes a self fulfilling action to take because you are loving yourself that you're going to show up and Pay your taxes so that you can borrow money and that the government doesn't come after you, and you can, you know, you're loving yourself by organizing your closet. You're loving yourself by, you know, checking the things off your list that are tedious and laborious and nobody actually wants to do. I'll tell you, mine is the captain of my life. I
AC
42:42
love that I love,
Leigh Ann Orsi
42:43
and I am the captain of my life, and I take care of all my duties swiftly and with honor in order to have smooth seas migraine life, because I'm someone who used to, like, avoid all of this stuff, until it became like a giant bomb, yeah, big hole in my life. Then I would have to, like, cover it with something so I could walk over and everything was fine until the next so now we do it different, you know, yeah, now I feel really like that. I'm loving myself by taking, going to the dentist and like, doing these things that I'm really loving myself and affirming my right, yeah, to have, yeah, peace and I love and so there's some really cool ones that people one of the ones that somewhat successful doer, problem solver, the driver. I have another girl who chose the driver, because she's like, I've been a passenger for fucking ever. But like,
AC
43:44
you know, to say the driver's seat, it's like, me and a girlfriend have that, yeah, yeah, yeah, right. And
Leigh Ann Orsi
43:49
someone else had, like, a caped crusader. It says, do her thing. Stuff is like a superhero, you know,
AC
43:56
yeah, you
Leigh Ann Orsi
43:57
choose something that empowers you. And
AC
44:01
like,
Leigh Ann Orsi
44:03
you know, I've done this work with a friend who, like, called me back afterwards and was like, Oh my God, this morning, I was doing the dishes as a vision of love instead of pissed off. You know, it's great, yeah, the energy with which you attack your life, everything changes.
AC
44:24
Okay, I just ran it down. Okay, wow.
Leigh Ann Orsi
44:39
And so the really cool thing is that when you choose all these people, they're like players. You put in the game,
AC
44:44
yeah, to
Leigh Ann Orsi
44:46
do the dishes, yeah?
AC
44:48
Okay,
Leigh Ann Orsi
44:49
this the whatever the strategist is going to do this. And then you look at your life, which is this complex, entangled mess, and you actually feel like I have the right man for that job.
AC
45:02
Um, okay, okay,
Leigh Ann Orsi
45:05
and you can separate it out so that no one's overwhelmed. It's like the investor is going to do this, the strategist is going to do that, the driver's going to do this, so and so is going to do this like I gotta, and then you bring the necessary energy to each moment of your life.
AC
45:32
Hmm, that's pretty profound. That's pretty different. It's totally
Leigh Ann Orsi
45:37
different. Yeah, different, yeah. So I'll take, I'm going to leave you to sit with these, and your job is to kind of, like, figure out what they are for you.
AC
45:46
Okay, you know. And then,
Leigh Ann Orsi
45:49
um, yeah. And then I can, I mean, we can also, you know what, maybe what we should do is, when you kind of come back and you know what you want. Maybe we can, like, play with the chat bot to have it help finish. Wait, can we do that?
AC
46:06
Yeah, yeah.
Leigh Ann Orsi
46:07
I'm also going to show you mine, the end result of where we're headed. Do you want to see? Yeah, I
AC
46:12
want to see. So this
Leigh Ann Orsi
46:13
is just the first Oh, wait, I gotta share it. And
AC
46:16
as a first step, okay, what? How do you access the chat bot? Oh, I
Leigh Ann Orsi
46:23
will send it to you. The thing is, like I said, it's a bit rogue, so I'm afraid to, like, deploy it without my supervision. Yeah,
AC
46:29
for sure. It's okay.
Leigh Ann Orsi
46:30
I just sent my coder guy a message, but I haven't heard back from him because he was gone for the weekend, and he was supposed to be getting back and updating the next round of stuff for me. Okay, but hold on, this is not the fun part.
46:43
Yeah, wait,
Leigh Ann Orsi
46:46
but this is where you're headed. Wow. So these are my identities. This is my artwork, yeah, but we're going to create art so that you can see each one. So, I'm a creator, yeah, I'm a magical healer,
AC
47:08
I'm a successful
Leigh Ann Orsi
47:09
entrepreneur, I'm a power banker. That's my anchor of money. Yeah,
AC
47:14
I'm an
Leigh Ann Orsi
47:15
adventurer,
AC
47:18
uh huh, I'm an
Leigh Ann Orsi
47:19
acrobat, I'm
AC
47:20
a princess
Leigh Ann Orsi
47:21
wife. I'm an empowered mother and a connectors, and I'm the captain of my life. Yeah, I love
AC
47:29
these. Okay, wow, that's really cool.
Leigh Ann Orsi
47:31
Once you get the names right, then we can create the art, and then also create I am statements, which AI is really great at helping with this, yeah, I had to write these all myself, but, but you create a Ann statements, and when you read them like you know, I love to share my energy, put on a show, host events and create fun opportunities for all. I'm an empowered mother. I believe in my divine worthiness. I have a loving and calm presence. I gracefully care for myself and the people I love. I'm an acrobat, graceful, skilled, strong and flexible. I indulge in movement to play and learn. I'm able to perform for, play with and protect the people I love, American icon. I'm masterful with my self care, my belongings, of my home. I protect my energy so I can be radiant, stunning and poised. I dress to impress and elevate every space I enter, I
AC
48:21
love that. Yeah, I love that. Okay. I'm a creator,
Leigh Ann Orsi
48:24
inventive and courageous. I use my unique mind and creativity to make things other people only dream of. I believe I can change the world. So, okay,
AC
48:35
I love it. Yeah, this
Leigh Ann Orsi
48:37
is where we're going with the identities. Okay, so there's two. One is you gotta pick the names, because that's most important. Then you create the art and the I am statement, and then, and then you have your team for team,
AC
48:50
awesome. Yep, right, yep.
Leigh Ann Orsi
48:54
Then we go through some action exercises. How can I take action as these identities, which is a really cool process, because you're like, oh, I can do this right now. And then I am being
Speaker 1
49:04
yes person, yeah, once we
Leigh Ann Orsi
49:07
do a little bit of that, then then we do the shadows, which I'm not going to preview, because it just gets too overwhelming. But the shadows are epic. And when you do the shadows, you really understand, yeah, uh, yourself in a new way and have a new compassion. Okay,
AC
49:26
okay, it's amazing. Okay, so then, when do I see you again? Do I whenever
Leigh Ann Orsi
49:32
you want just if you if you're ready tomorrow, text me and we'll put something on the calendar.
AC
49:36
Okay, cool. Or it
Leigh Ann Orsi
49:38
could be like a week. The thing is, is that next week I'm moving out of here and leaving so and I'll get I probably won't land in Missouri until like that, so I wouldn't be able to see you until the end of next week. But if you want to see me before the end of this week, again, I'll be available. Okay,
AC
49:53
I say, let's go ahead and plan for when you're in Missouri. I think that's a good time to like, think, okay, okay, cool. And like, do you do you get to do this just as a coach with people, and then this is kind of your the transition of it, right? Is this? Yeah.
Leigh Ann Orsi
50:07
So I have been coaching people one on one in this for or not even one on one. I've done groups. I've done one on one for like two years, yeah, either privately, like people hire me, yeah, but I've pretty much shifted to only I mean, and I've also done regular coaching work, but I really don't enjoy it, because I actually don't think that people's problems is the right entry point.
AC
50:34
Ah, interesting. Yeah, okay, this
Leigh Ann Orsi
50:38
is a really beautiful entry point, envisioning the possibilities, and it actually allows for, like, far more growth, because you're not in your entrenched resistance.
AC
50:49
Yeah. So
Leigh Ann Orsi
50:51
now I just do these sessions where I'm kind of the I've actually adjusted the sessions to be more like how the chat bot would teach,
AC
51:01
yeah,
Leigh Ann Orsi
51:02
and then I record the conversations, I share it with the bot like we're training it. So right now, I'm basically only doing work that's helping me develop the technology tool. Because the biggest problem with this is not that people don't want to do it. I mean, it's about lowering the overall time input, which I think AI can do, and then secondly, it is making it accessible at any time. Or you don't have to get, like, synchronous time someone to do it.
AC
51:26
Yeah, it's so nice. Okay, yeah, I get it. Okay. And so I would say,
Leigh Ann Orsi
51:30
once you have your ideas, I mean, or if you wanted, we could just try, try with the chat box soon, because it's supposed to do it at the
AC
51:41
beginning? Yeah, I think like you, once you're ready to, like, give me the login. Let's just try it. Let's see what happens. Yeah,
Leigh Ann Orsi
51:47
I think it would be fun to do it together, because, because I want to observe Yes, otherwise it's going to go rogue and you're going to be like, I want to observe it so I can help coach you and coach it at the same time. Okay, by next week. You know, I always think by next week it's going to be better, but I think by next week it'll be better, really,
AC
52:09
Okay, nice. And like, will you be able to sit on a phone? Yeah? Oh, amazing. Okay. And then, yeah, this is
Leigh Ann Orsi
52:15
all going to be a phone app, yeah.
AC
52:17
Would you pay, like, a monthly subscription? Is that, like, how it would work? Yeah, what's the name of it? I need the name like, just like, now
Leigh Ann Orsi
52:24
the working title is Neo vida. Neo
AC
52:27
vida, okay, yeah. Now your email, okay, cool. Oh no.
Leigh Ann Orsi
52:30
My email is actually discovida, which is another company that I own, which could be the name. But I think that Neo Vida is like new life and disco Vida is actually discover alive. They're both Latin,
AC
52:43
yeah, okay,
Leigh Ann Orsi
52:45
okay, but I have the URL Mia vida.ai
AC
52:49
Yeah, I love it. And
Leigh Ann Orsi
52:50
also, Mia vida.com is available, but it's just like, I don't want to buy it yet, until I know for sure. I already bought one expensive URL for this and then didn't end up using it. So, like, you're like,
AC
53:01
No at the end of day, it doesn't matter till the end. So,
Leigh Ann Orsi
53:04
yeah, so, but the idea is, it's a life coach will take you through the process of creating the identities, the art, the shadows, the actions. And then you also have visions which are here I can, I can show you these. The shadows are a bit, a bit. So this is my really bad MVP consider just like a visual workbook, yeah? But I have an incredible designer who's going to, like, modernize and make this all work together and
make it beautiful. Because right now, this is like a drag and drop platform, yeah, but these are your visions. So I want to reconnect with my family. I want to buy a house in LA. I want to publish my book on I reconnect with my magical dancer. I want to do Y Combinator. I don't think that. But then there's this dashboard below that helps you, like, manage everything that you need to actually accomplish it. So it's a dual action and vision visualization
AC
54:13
tool, or,
AC
54:16
yeah, and
Leigh Ann Orsi
54:18
what it does is, once you train the AI on everything you want. It helps you do it. Okay,
AC
54:28
yeah, I love that. That's how I'm using chat. GBT, anyways, it's like tons of people are I feel like you're
Leigh Ann Orsi
54:33
right. Not only is it a conversation, but it actually has all of these data points of like, what you want, it can help you decide. It can help you stay on track and help give you credit for all the stuff you're doing and like, it will continue to drive you towards your goals and dreams, and not only drive you towards them, but also help you to refine, refine them. Continue creating them, continue checking in with yourself, and it's going to become your ally in in achieving everything you want and also helping you offload all the unnecessary bullshit that doesn't belong in your brain. Ooh.
AC
55:14
This is fantastic. Yeah, okay, hmm, okay. I love it. I really do. I think it's exciting, like, so yeah, it's like, what I'll do? I do? You want me to email you all the ones completed? So then when we have the call, it's just there. We're like, copy and paste. Does that help? Okay? It's like, yeah,
Leigh Ann Orsi
55:34
or but to be honest, like, the truth is, it's yours, and all you have to do is say, Yeah,
AC
55:38
I'm ready.
Leigh Ann Orsi
55:39
I think I know what I want. Also the the chat bot will help you refine. Oh,
AC
55:45
nice. Okay, it'll
Leigh Ann Orsi
55:45
help you refine and come up with cool names, like, you're like, Look, I'm a this little block. Help me come up with a
AC
55:52
name. It will help you. Okay, okay, cool. I'm excited. What's the name of him? Does he have a name? It's
Leigh Ann Orsi
55:59
me. It's
AC
56:00
you, okay,
Leigh Ann Orsi
56:01
yeah, yeah, eventually I actually want it to be like a two way conversational avatar, yeah, so it's actually will be
AC
56:13
me, hi, you can talk
Leigh Ann Orsi
56:14
with me. Yeah,
AC
56:15
really fucking cool. Okay, I love it. Yay. Like, thank you. Leigh, Ann, yeah, as soon as I've got this together, Okay. Have a good day soon, bye bye.